Conflict Management and Emotions

The other night I got really angry at a frozen pizza package. I cussed, I thought evil thoughts about packaging engineers. And then I finally said "What am I doing? -- Just cook the pizza."

Now imagine my frozen pizza package emotional response during a 'self defense situation.' Not so good, huh? Why do people tend to get stuck in maladaptive emotional states? And how does that relate to self defense?

Read this:

http://www.conflictcommunications.com/monkey-trap.htm

I have personally enjoyed Rory Miller's first book, "Meditations on Violence," and I routinely read and recommend Marc MacYoung's website "NoNonsenseSelfDefence.com." If you haven't used either of these resources yet, why not?